The official sources for the Stammtisch dates are the websites listed below, which are maintained directly by the Stammtisch organizers. We also try to publish the dates on other websites and communities, but we cannot guarantee 100% accuracy on external sites. Therefore, we recommend using only the websites listed.

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Currently we follow this pattern: We have two theme evenings, followed by one non-themed evening. Then again two theme evenings, followed by one non-themed evening, and so on.

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Important to know: Please tell us your topic request immediately so that we can include it in our calendar. Our topics are flexible and can be postponed in the future. You can help shape our calendar!

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Participation in the Stammtisch is voluntary. If you don’t have time or don’t feel like coming once, that’s no problem.

However, it is important to keep in mind that our Stammtisch thrives on its members who should also attend the meetings. It makes little to no sense to register, attend once or twice, and then not show up for a year. In such a case, we consider this a lack of interest and remove you from the Stammtisch list.

If for any reason you cannot attend the Stammtisch for a longer period (e.g. due to rehab, spa stay, vacation, world trip or a BDSM break), please inform the Stammtisch organizers by email or in person and let them know how long you are expected to be absent.

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Of course! Our Stammtisch is one of many in Germany. You can find an overview of the Stammtisch meetings in Münster on our network website linked below:

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Since the founding of the Stammtisch in 2012, our goal has been to be a real Stammtisch – not a virtual one. Until early 2020, however, there was no coronavirus pandemic and therefore no lockdowns with the closure of restaurants.

The coronavirus pandemic now forces us to rethink.

However, we have found that our Stammtisch members still want to stay in touch despite the pandemic. We have therefore decided to temporarily move the real Stammtisch to a virtual video platform. The video chat works very well and only requires a computer or smartphone with an internet connection.

To participate in a video Stammtisch, you need a webcam with a microphone and the URL of the video chat room.

You can buy a webcam online or offline in many electronics stores. Good webcams are available from as little as five euros, with no upper price limit as usual.

The address for the webcam chat is only shared via internal WhatsApp groups or newsletters.

The chat works best in Chrome or Edge browser or with an app.

Please note that we cannot provide technical support on this evening.

Our Stammtisch location Mauritius is located at Warendorfer Straße 71 in Münster. If you come by car, please enter this address into your navigation device. If the Stammtisch or an event takes place at another location, please use the address provided on the event detail page.

Please allow 10-15 minutes to find a parking space. You can either park directly on the street or in the side streets.

For a stress-free journey by car, we recommend using NUNAV navigation.

Please wear comfortable everyday clothing. We are not at a BDSM play party or the Love Parade.

Of course you may wear that with us! If you feel unsure at first, be brave and do it anyway!

You are welcome to join us in these clothes. However, it is advisable to remove full name tags or references to your employer beforehand.

Then please come along! There is a first time for everyone.

If you would like to talk to someone beforehand, please contact the Stammtisch organizers by email.

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Of course, come along! We welcome couples of any constellation and make no distinctions based on gender.

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Basically, nobody in the BDSM/fetish scene knows everything. There are always some “experts” who claim so, but that’s nonsense.

When you discover your inclinations or start living BDSM, you’re at the beginning of your journey. It’s completely normal to have lots of questions. If you do, come to the Stammtisch and talk with visitors.

Only those who speak up can be helped!

If you have any questions, just send a short email to the Stammtisch organizers.

We look forward to answering your questions. We’re not all-knowing, but we’ll do our best to help. So don’t hesitate to contact us!

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Transgender people and clothing fetishists are

• of course welcome to attend the Stammtisch like anyone else. Please note that you will be in the minority here.
• Please read the questions about the topic ‘Outfit’ carefully. Trashy or sloppy outfits are frowned upon, as we do not want trouble with the venue operator.
• If you are unsure, it’s better to come casually dressed in everyday clothes rather than in fetish wear.
• If you (biologically male) would like to attend in women’s clothing and are unsure whether your outfit is appropriate, please send the organizers photos of your outfit a few days in advance. We want to avoid awkward moments at our location and prevent conflicts with the venue operator.

But don’t worry: We place great importance on tolerance and acceptance at the Stammtisch. No one will be looked at askance just because they follow a different life path or have special clothing preferences. We expect normal social behavior.

“Everyone is different.”

That is what makes our Stammtisch special!

People with unusual fantasies, inclinations, and sexual preferences are warmly invited to join the Stammtisch.

However, individuals involved in criminal activities such as human trafficking are excluded.

Our BDSM is (meta)consensual and explicitly excludes any criminal conduct. We reserve the right to exclude participants if necessary.

If it becomes known that a participant has been convicted of serious criminal offenses, we may exclude that person from the Stammtisch. The decision will be discussed and made within the organizing team.

A good sense of humor is important, because BDSM can be very humorous and isn’t always deadly serious.

You should also have some pleasant topics for conversation.

If you want to order something to drink or eat, make sure to bring some money.

Please contact the Stammtisch organizers via our contact form at

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No, in this case it is not necessary. Please just give your first name and your email address to the Stammtisch organizers on site to ensure that you receive all information in time by email.

Through an RSS feed, information can be provided in a standardized XML format. Free programs for every operating system can read and process RSS feeds.

There are numerous free programs for every operating system that can read and process RSS feeds. Even email programs like Microsoft Outlook or Thunderbird can read RSS feeds.

Yes.

Prospects have one year to get to know our Stammtisch. During this period, we check whether there is genuine interest. Anyone who has attended the Stammtisch at least four times in the first year becomes a member.

Members regularly take part in Stammtisch life. However, if a member does not attend within one year, we must assume that the interest is no longer there.

In our Stammtisch member management we store the following information:

• Your real first name and your eMail address are mandatory. We intentionally do not record pseudonyms or nicknames.
• If you have provided further master data such as phone number, location details, year of birth or relationship status, as well as your preferences or BDSM experience, these are voluntary details you submitted via the contact form.
• For our age and area statistics it is helpful if you share your year of birth as well as your place of residence, borough and neighborhood.
• We also record statistical data such as the date of your initial contact, your first visit to our Stammtisch, the duration of your observation period (this value is dynamic) and the time of your actual visit. Actual visits are recorded for the current year and the previous two years.
• We also note whether you have subscribed to our circulars, are a member of our WhatsApp group or are waitlisted for it.
• We also record whether you have registered for a special event.

You can view all of this data at any time in your user login, which we set up exactly for this purpose. We will send your personal login credentials to you upon first contact.

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We often shorten long internet addresses, such as links to Google Maps or downloads. For this we use a short-URL service under the subdomain https://s.bdsm-muenster.com/. This also lets us see whether the link was clicked. Our short-URL service is based on the self-hosted script from Yourls.

In our regular newsletters we use your eMail address, your first name, and your individual LogIn name for the Stammtisch user information portal. The circular also includes the date of your observation period, which is calculated based on your registration and/or Stammtisch visits.

We do not share any data with third parties or external companies.

All personal visitor data is stored in a mySQL database. The database is located on a server in the Dresden data center of the web host Neue Medien Münnich, just like our website. The newsletter is generated with a self-developed PHP-/mySQL script. Backups of the user database are created regularly and kept for two weeks before being deleted.

We provide everyone with a secure space for their data, locally on site. Please note that we do not share your direct contact details with third parties or other participants.

We delete your data as soon as you unsubscribe from us or if you have not participated in the Stammtisch for one year. We will inform you about the deletion of your data in a separate email.

How can the Stammtisch leadership determine and assess the interest of newcomers?

At the beginning, we asked ourselves exactly these questions. The answer was simple: The interest of a visitor can be measured by their participation in the Stammtisch. If someone attends the Stammtisch, they are interested. Each participant receives an individual observation period to check whether they have taken part in Stammtisch life. When the date is reached, we check the visitor statistics to see if the participant has actually taken part.

The date lies in the future. Everyone can view the date of their individual observation period in their personal login to the Stammtisch user info; it is also communicated in the newsletter. The login details are sent by e-mail, provided we have an e-mail address.

For this purpose, we have created a dedicated information website. You can log in with a username and password. The login details are provided in the welcome e-mail.

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For such questions, please contact the Stammtisch management directly.

Only the person concerned and the Stammtisch management have access to personal member data. We do not share personal data with third parties. We strictly comply with the General Data Protection Regulation (GDPR).

The contact form sends all entries by e-mail to stammtisch@bdsm-muenster.com. The e-mail is sent exclusively to the Stammtisch management.

Attendance statistics let us record how many people visit the Stammtisch and whether a member attended after registering.

The Stammtisch thrives on active members who participate in person. We do not need people who only read emails (virtual members). We are a real-life Stammtisch and value that our members do not hide behind a computer.

User data and passwords are part of the internet today—just like Wikipedia, Google or Facebook.

Every interested person or Stammtisch visitor receives their own access to the Userinfo portal, a small site where personal data can be viewed. These data are accessible only to the Stammtisch leadership and the person concerned.

We communicate this transparently. Login is via username and password.

The username consists of the person’s first name, a random five-digit number, and a special character, ensuring uniqueness in the system.

The password is 15 characters long and includes uppercase/lowercase letters, numbers, and special characters. Passwords are intentionally generated at random and used exclusively for our service. For security, passwords are stored as password hashes using the PASSWORD_BCRYPT algorithm. PASSWORD_BCRYPT is used to create new password hashes with the CRYPT_BLOWFISH algorithm. We set the cost option to 15. From the hashes in the database, the original password can neither be read nor reverse-engineered; it can only be reset.

Access to Userinfo is granted only when username and password are entered correctly.

When logging in, a session cookie is created and deleted once you leave the Userinfo or close the browser window.

If you need a secure password, you can use PassGenerator.de.

We publish the current average age on our statistics page.

Notes:

• Not all visitors have provided their age.
• We record visitors’ dates of birth, but often only the birth year is available; we calculate the age from that.
• These figures are approximate indicators only.
• Everyone aged 18 and over is warmly welcome.

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You can find visitor statistics in our chronicle or on our statistics page.

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It is theoretically possible.

But why is this person you know at our Stammtisch? Probably for the same reason as you.

What now?

You will likely look at each other awkwardly at first. The best approach is to talk about your interests and agree that whatever is discussed at the Stammtisch stays there and does not become a topic at work or among friends. Both sides will appreciate that. So don’t worry—just drop by.

Please do not share any information about a member that you learned at the Stammtisch—whether private or job-related—outside the group.

To avoid unintended outing, also refrain from any references to BDSM or the Stammtisch if you happen to meet a member around coworkers, family, friends, or acquaintances. Please follow these rules.

Very important:The Stammtisch is not a dating agency!

It may happen that you meet someone here and develop mutual interest – that is absolutely fine.

However, keep in mind:

• The female participants at our Stammtisch are definitely not fair game.
• No means no here as well!
• Flirting is allowed – hitting on is not!

If you meet someone interesting and a relationship develops, you alone are responsible for everything that happens between you.

Neither the organizers nor uninvolved participants can be held responsible or liable for this.

Ladies and gentlemen from the professional field are warmly invited to participate in the Stammtisch. However, please note that the Stammtisch is not intended for actively seeking new paying clients.

As a rule, only one or two emails per week or every two weeks are distributed via this list - depending on upcoming events or discussion needs.

No, this Stammtisch is independent of any community or BDSM scene website (except for our own homepage). We have neither an umbrella association nor are we affiliated with a club. We simply consider ourselves part of the BDSM scene in Germany.

We are an active member of the BDSM network Münster and Münsterland, which was partly created through our Stammtisch work.

One major exception was the BVSM e.V. (Bundesvereinigung Sadomasochismus e.V.). Since August 2016, we were a corporate member of BVSM e.V. as a Stammtisch and networked with other Stammtische nationwide. However, since the end of 2021, the BVSM e.V. no longer exists. Neither a website nor an email address is available.

Although we are present and represented on various BDSM/fetish/erotic websites, we are not subject to any external regulations on how we should act as a Stammtisch or how we must behave. We are 100% independent and will remain so.

It is not a requirement to be registered on an external BDSM/fetish/erotic website.

We are not an association and do not intend to become one.

Participation in the Stammtisch is and will remain free of charge. There are no monthly or other compulsory payments.

However, it cannot be expected that the organizers finance jointly agreed expenses on their own. Such expenses should be shared by all participants. For this reason, a donation box is available. Contributions are voluntary but appreciated.

Common costs may include, for example, advertising expenses or small gifts. Decisions on such expenses are made democratically. Costs arise only if you order food or drinks yourself, which you pay for. There is no obligation to consume, nor any minimum consumption required by the venue.

Transparency matters to us. The cash book for the Stammtisch (income and expenses) can be downloaded via a link in the regular info email.

Emails to stammtisch@bdsm-muenster.com are received only by Sven & Tobias (Stammtisch organizers) — and by no one else.

We provide a protected space for every interested person. Therefore, we do not publish a contact email that would distribute the sender’s private data to all participants. That makes no sense, and we do not do it. The data protection of our members is very important to us.

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Yes, definitely!

Those who don’t take part in Stammtisch life miss exciting evenings and interesting discussions. Active participation is the best way to see who truly has interest. Only then can we ensure our members are active and committed.

For us, what counts is active, in-person participation at the Stammtisch.

In the past, unfortunately, there were cases where people stayed with us who had regular contact with the public prosecutor, police, courts, etc., and thus were also familiar with prisons from the inside. We learned about this only afterwards or very late, for example through personal conversations or public reporting.

The BDSM Stammtisch Münster and Münsterland is not a place for people who have been or are currently criminally convicted, for example for murder, rape, sexual acts with minors, or similar offenses.

The Stammtisch management explicitly distances itself from such people.

If the Stammtisch management becomes aware of such a case from a member or interested party, that person will be immediately excluded from the Stammtisch.

However, we do not check in advance whether an interested person has a corresponding criminal record. This is not about speeding violations and/or points in Flensburg.

We know this topic is sensitive and unpleasant, even frightening (which people may circulate in the scene ...). We had and have to learn to deal with it. Nonetheless, there is no place for such people at our Stammtisch, and we have a clear stance: zero tolerance.

New interested people are, of course, very welcome to come to the Stammtisch! We must protect the other participants and provide them with a safe space. We address this issue openly and offer everyone a protected environment.

However, we must inform and communicate clearly in advance.

The coronavirus pandemic affects our everyday lives and also our Stammtisch activities.

We recommend that all visitors and interested parties get vaccinated against COVID-19. We understand that some people cannot be vaccinated for health reasons, such as intolerances. There are now numerous opportunities at doctors’ offices and vaccination centers to receive a vaccine against the virus.

At the Stammtisch we speak German. Unfortunately, we cannot support other languages, even though our website is largely multilingual.

Whether you can pay with an EC or credit card at our events depends on the location. At our regular venue Mauritius, card payment is not possible — you can only pay in cash there. However, there is a Sparkasse bank branch directly across the street where you can withdraw cash.

The two rotating videos on the German-language homepage do not show real Stammtisch visitors. We protect the privacy of our participants. The people depicted represent the colorful diversity of our guests. This content is AI-generated.

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Just send us an eMail via the form below or to the general eMail address. We will then inform you in a separate eMail about the cancellation and the deletion of the data.

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